BREAKING UP HURT BUT IS NOT THE END OF LIFE

There's life after a breakup, that's what most people fail to realize, your life cannot be based on whether someone loves or accepts...

There's life after a breakup, that's what most people fail to realize, your life cannot be based on whether someone loves or accepts you. Your life cannot be based on whether someone finds you beautiful or not. I am a living witness. Dating/falling in love is a very good and equally dangerous thing because when you fall in love, you're opening yourself up to getting hurt, having your heart shattered, its a very risky situation to be in. Trust me when I say this because I
understand, I've been burned more than once. I'm going to share a few tips that has helped and worked for some people

 1. Never love too much: I know these things happen so fast and feel so good that often times we fail to realize that we've lost ourselves while loving some other person. Never allow this to happen to you. Do not completely attach yourself to some other person, do not let them be the only reason why you'll be happy because as we all know, human beings are very unreliable. No matter how in love you are, don't make your significant other your whole world, your all and all. Give them their space, often times and most especially this happens to women, when a guy notices that you've become so attached to him, he tends to start treating you nonchalantly because he knows that whatever happens, you can't complain or even leave. Don't put yourself in this situation. Do not lose yourself while loving some other person.

2. Never go into a relationship if you're not mentally ready to handle it: This one is targeted at my fellow teenagers, school stress/work plus keeping a relationship is mentally and physically tasking, if you're not ready, don't go into it. Again speaking from experience, let me give an example, if you have a spat or a disagreement with your boyfriend/girlfriend, you become mentally disoriented depending on how attached you are to him/her. If there was any school work you were supposed to do, you can't do it anymore because your mind can't focus.

3. Learn to enjoy your own company, often times we feel we cannot be happy on our own, turns out we can! When you start enjoying your company, being happy when you're alone, your relationships will start getting better because you won't appear so needy all the time. But my aim is to help those going through a bad breakup, its not the end of the world for you. All you have to do is to erase everything that reminds you of him or her. Once you've done that, you've made the first major step in healing yourself. Remember you have two choices; you can either sit, cry and feel sorry for yourself or you can dust yourself up, learn to smile again and work on improving yourself as a person. Finally, never forget that life is all about experiences and mistakes, all you have to do is learn from them and don't repeat the same mistakes. In the end that's how we all grow.

To everyone out there suffering from a bad breakup, smile and be happy, your happiness can never be dependent on one person. You're the only one responsible for making you happy! Cheers!